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Zoek op "yoni-ei" en je leest dat het je hormonen in balans brengt, je blaas traint en al duizenden jaren geheim is doorgegeven. Wij houden van yoni-eieren, maar daar doen we niet aan mee. Die eeuwenoude oorsprong is namelijk nooit aangetoond, en een edelsteen is geen medicijn. Wat een yoni-ei wél kan: je helpen je bekkenbodem te voelen, bewust tijd voor jezelf te nemen en je lijf beter te leren kennen. Degene die geloven in de spirituele kracht van edelstenen (zoals een aantal van onze testpersonen), beweren ook dat ieder type yoni ei een eigen positieve werking op ze heeft. Wat is een yoni-ei? Een glad gepolijst, eivormig stuk edelsteen dat je vaginaal inbrengt. "Yoni" is Sanskriet voor het vrouwelijk geslachtsdeel, en in spirituele kringen staat het ook voor vrouwelijke kracht. De meeste eieren hebben aan de smalle kant een gaatje voor een touwtje. Voor wie is het (en voor wie nog niet)? Een yoni-ei is iets voor jou als je: nieuwsgierig bent naar je bekkenbodem en wilt voelen waar die zit; houdt van rituelen en momenten voor jezelf; je lichaam en je seksualiteit beter wilt leren kennen. Gebruik het niet tijdens je menstruatie, bij een infectie of irritatie, tijdens een zwangerschap of in de eerste maanden na een bevalling. Heb je bekkenbodemklachten, zoals urineverlies, pijn of een verzakkingsgevoel? Ga dan eerst naar een bekkenfysiotherapeut. Een yoni-ei is geen behandeling. Bij een te gespannen bekkenbodem kan het zelfs averechts werken. Welke steen kies je? Voor inbrengen wil je een harde, gladde steen zonder barstjes. Bij LieLei kun je kiezen uit rozenkwarts, witte kwarts, amethist, carneool, jade, obsidiaan en seleniet. De stenen zijn bewerkt zodat ze geschikt zijn voor inwendig gebruik. Dat is belangrijk, want sommige stenen, zoals seleniet, zouden anders niet geschikt zijn hiervoor. Omdat ze bijvoorbeeld te zacht zijn of in water (deels) kunnen oplossen. Controleer je ei voor elk gebruik: zie of voel je een barstje of schilfer, gebruik het dan niet meer. Wil je weten waar elke steen spiritueel voor staat? Dat lees je hier. Met of zonder touwtje? Begin altijd met touwtje. Dan haal je het ei er zonder gedoe uit. Zonder touwtje is pas iets voor als je goed voelt hoe je je bekkenbodem ontspant, want dan laat je het ei er zelf uit zakken. Twijfel je over de maat? Met onze rozenkwarts kegelset begin je wat groter, want dat is makkelijker vast te houden, en werk je naar kleiner toe. Zo gebruik je een yoni-ei Schoonmaken. Was het ei met lauw water. Eventueel met een milde, ongeparfumeerde zeep. Maar spoel deze goed schoon, om te voorkomen dat je pH-balans verstoord raakt. Gebruik geen heet of kokend water: stenen kunnen barsten door het temperatuurverschil. Ontspannen. Neem even de tijd: een paar rustige ademhalingen, liggend of half zittend. Inbrengen. Brede kant eerst, zodat de smalle kant (met touwtje) naar beneden wijst. Een beetje glijmiddel op waterbasis helpt. Voelt het niet goed? Niet forceren, probeer het een andere keer. Oefenen: aanspannen én loslaten. Knijp zachtjes, alsof je een plasje ophoudt, en laat dan volledig los. Dat loslaten is net zo belangrijk als het aanspannen. Begin met een paar minuten en bouw rustig op. Eruit halen. Met touwtje: rustig trekken. Zonder touwtje: in hurkzit de bekkenbodem ontspannen en licht persen. Schoonmaken en opbergen. Opnieuw wassen, goed laten drogen en apart bewaren, zodat het ei niet beschadigt. Niet doen: het ei urenlang dragen, ermee slapen of het tijdens seks inhouden. Het touwtje Gebruik ongeparfumeerd, ongewaxt touw of het touwtje dat bij je ei zit en vervang het vaak. In een touwtje en in het boorgaatje kunnen bacteriën blijven zitten, dus spoel het gaatje na elk gebruik goed door. Nog vragen? We zijn geen seksuologen of artsen, maar wel ervaringsdeskundigen. Stuur ons een DM op Instagram of mail naar info@lielei.nl, dan denken we graag met je mee. #talkwithLieLei Let the fun begin! 💙 FAQ: veelgestelde vragen over yoni-eieren Hoe lang mag een yoni-ei erin blijven?Begin met een paar minuten en bouw rustig op. Draag het niet urenlang en slaap er niet mee. Helpt een yoni-ei tegen urineverlies?Dat is niet aangetoond. Heb je last van urineverlies of andere bekkenbodemklachten, ga dan naar een bekkenfysiotherapeut. Welke steen is het beste voor beginners?Een harde, gladde steen zoals rozenkwarts of witte kwarts, met touwtje, in een wat groter formaat. Mag ik een yoni-ei gebruiken tijdens mijn menstruatie?Nee, wacht tot je menstruatie voorbij is.

You are pregnant, your body is constantly changing, and the world around you suddenly feels very different. And yet, your sexuality doesn't have to be put on pause. On the contrary. Masturbation can be a valuable part of your self-care right now, both during and after your pregnancy. It’s not just about pleasure (though that is certainly a benefit), but about physical and emotional well-being during a time when your body and mind could use all the support they can get. The benefits of masturbation during pregnancy Stress and tension relief Pregnancy brings a lot with it: physical changes, hormonal fluctuations, emotional ups and downs, and a great deal of uncertainty. Masturbation is a natural, healthy way to reduce stress. When you touch yourself, your body releases endorphins; natural mood boosters that relax you and improve your state of mind. Improved blood flow and muscle relaxation During masturbation, more blood flows to your genitals. This not only enhances sensation but also helps release tension in the pelvic area. Many pregnant women experience stiffness in their lower back and pelvis, something for which masturbation can offer real relief. Better sleep Sleep becomes increasingly difficult as your pregnancy progresses. Masturbation can be a solution here. After an orgasm, your body feels relaxed and heavy; exactly what you need to fall asleep. A better night's sleep is not only nice for you, but also essential for your baby. Maintaining healthy sexuality Your body is changing, you may feel less sexy, and intimacy with a partner can feel more complicated than ever. But masturbation reminds you that you are a sexual being, and that you remain so. This contributes to a positive self-image, which is crucial for your mental health. Masturbation after giving birth: why it is important Supporting recovery and healing After birth, your body goes through an intensive healing process. Blood loss, hormonal fluctuations, possible wounds—everything can feel like too much. Yet, gentle self-pleasure can contribute to that healing process. The increased blood flow helps tissue repair, and the endorphins help with postnatal fatigue and the "baby blues." Emotional recovery The fourth trimester is intense, especially if you are struggling with postnatal depression or anxiety. Masturbation is a form of self-love that you can practice without leaving home, without much preparation, and entirely at your own pace. It can help you feel that you are still yourself, apart from motherhood. Rediscovering sexuality Many women feel disconnected from their sexuality after birth. Breastfeeding, fatigue, body changes—it sometimes feels as if your body is no longer your own. Masturbation is your space: only yours, on your terms, at your pace. Preventing sexual dysfunction Research shows that women who masturbate regularly after giving birth experience less sexual dysfunction. Your body and mind remain connected to what feels good, which is essential for intimacy later on. How do you do it safely and comfortably? Masturbation during and after pregnancy is safe for you and your baby, unless your doctor has explicitly advised against it. Here are some practical tips: Timing: Wait with penetration until the wound has completely healed (usually 6–8 weeks after birth). Gentle, external self-pleasure is safe sooner. Position: In early pregnancy, do whatever feels comfortable. Later in your pregnancy, you may need to change positions; try lying on your side or using extra pillows. Hygiene: Always ensure clean hands. After birth: rinse your genitals gently with lukewarm water; do not use douches or other products that may cause irritation. Toys: Gemstone toys (such as yoni eggs) can feel grounding and meditative. They help you make more conscious contact with your body. Or choose a massage vibrator, which you can use over your body. With that, you can discover other spots before massaging your vulva. Starting with a small vibrator can feel less overwhelming in any case. Always ensure that sex toys are clean and listen to what your body can handle. What about shame? Many women feel guilty or ashamed about masturbating at these times. That is understandable; we have been taught a lot about what is "proper" for a pregnant woman or a new mother. But here is the important thing: self-pleasure is not shameful. It is self-love. It is setting boundaries with yourself at the center. It is healthy. LieLei exists precisely to take that shame away. Your body, your pleasure, your sexuality—it all belongs to you. Pregnant, just given birth, mother, partner, woman—you are all these things at once, and you are still allowed to touch yourself. Frequently asked questions Question: Is it safe for my baby?Yes. Your baby is safe in your womb. Self-pleasure does not cause harm. The only exception: if your doctor has advised against it due to risks of premature contractions or other complications—then follow their advice. Question: Does masturbation cause contractions?In the early to mid-stage of pregnancy: no. In the final trimester, orgasms can cause mild contractions, but this does not trigger true labor unless your body is already ready. This can even help to get labor going. Question: How long should I wait after giving birth?This varies by woman. External self-pleasure can be safe sooner than penetration. Wait at least 6–8 weeks for penetration, and longer if you have had stitches, tears, or other recovery. Listen to your body. Question: Can I use toys?Yes. Ensure they are clean. The choice of material matters; silicone is hygienic and smooth. Avoid anything that feels sharp or rough. Question: Does this affect breastfeeding?No. Masturbation does not affect your milk supply or feeding. Just for yourself Pregnancy and motherhood are intense, transformative periods. Your body and mind change significantly. But you should never completely lose yourself in that process. Masturbation is one of the simplest, most powerful ways to stay connected to yourself; your body, your pleasure, your power. You deserve that moment of rest, pleasure, and self-love. Just for yourself.

Normal, healthy and good for you both. Yes, really, masturbating while you are in a relationship can boost your sex life. More on that later. But first: there is a persistent idea that masturbation is something for when you are alone. That, once you are in a relationship, you shouldn't have any need for solo sex anymore. And that if you do it anyway, there is apparently something wrong. With you, with your partner, or with your relationship. And that is simply not true. Why masturbation is good for you Masturbation has demonstrable benefits for your physical and mental health. Not as an alternative to sex with a partner, but just on its own. Immune system - An orgasm stimulates the production of white blood cells. Good news for your resistance. Stress reduction - An orgasm releases endorphins that reduce stress and tension. Better sleep - The relaxation after an orgasm helps you fall asleep faster. Better mood - The dopamine and oxytocin that are released contribute to a positive feeling. Why solo sex is okay, even when you have a partner Sex with a partner is wonderful (if things are going well), but it also demands something of you. You are together in the moment, there is foreplay, you have to consider someone else. That is beautiful, but it also takes energy. Sometimes you need something that demands less from you. No coordination, no expectations, just yourself. And that is exactly what solo sex offers. It is more accessible, faster, and completely at your own pace. That has nothing to do with whether you find your partner attractive, whether your relationship is good, or whether you want to have sex together enough. They are simply two different things, each with their own place. Myths to let go of 1. "If you masturbate, you aren't satisfied with your partner." Solo sex and sex with a partner are separate things. Most people who masturbate regularly also have a satisfying sex life with their partner. The one does not exclude the other. 2. "Masturbation is for when you're on your own." Masturbation is normal in every stage of life and in every relationship situation. Whether you are single, in a committed relationship, or married for years, solo sex is simply part of it. 3. "Toys are only necessary if the sex isn't good." A vibrator or other toy is not a last resort. It is a way to discover more about what you like, and you can bring that knowledge to sex with your partner. Solo sex makes you a better (bed) partner The better you know what you like, the easier it is to communicate that to your partner. Masturbation is a form of self-knowledge. And self-knowledge makes you more conscious, more confident, and more open in bed. Many people discover through solo sex what they truly enjoy, separate from the expectations of someone else. They bring those discoveries to sex with their partner. That leads to better communication, and often better sex together too. Discover the best solo toys Curious which toys work well for solo sex? We have listed the very best solo sex toys for you. And you can use most of them together as well. Have fun!

Your body and your mind don't always work together. And that's perfectly normal. In this blog, we explain what getting wet actually is, why it's not the same as being aroused, and why natural lubricant is for everyone; not just for those "who can't get it up."

You already own a vibrator. And now you want something new, or something to complement it. But how do you choose what really suits you? We’ll help you choose. First: what do you want to feel? Before you choose, it’s helpful to know what you’re looking for. Do you want more of the same, but better? Or are you curious about a different type of stimulation? That question determines everything. What is the difference between the types? What is the difference between a clitoral vibrator and a G-spot vibrator? Here it is simply explained:  Clitoral vibrator: stimulates the clitoris from the outside. Often compact, easy to use, including with a partner. Stimulation can be via vibrations or air pressure (we explain the difference between these at the bottom of this page). G-spot vibrator: curved, for internal use. Aimed at the G-spot; that’s a sensitive spot at the front of the vagina. Rabbit vibrator and duo stimulation vibrator: combines both: internal and external simultaneously. Our honest advice per situation You already have a clitoral vibrator Then a G-spot vibrator is a logical next step. You will explore a completely different type of stimulation, internally instead of externally. → View G-spot vibrators You already have a G-spot vibrator Try an air-pressure clitoral vibrator. No vibrations, but gentle suction; many women describe this as a totally new sensation.  Do you prefer vibrations? There is plenty of choice there, too. You can also use your G-spot vibrator (if it vibrates) to stimulate your clitoris. However, these can sometimes be a bit awkward to hold. A finger vibrator or massage vibrator is ideal for this. → View all clitoral vibrators at LieLei You want to get the most out of one vibrator Internal and external stimulation at the same time. Does that sound like too much? Then a duo stimulation vibrator is for you, because you can use both sides independently, making the intensity easier to control. Does it sound like music to your ears? Then a rabbit vibrator is really something for you. Vibrations or air pressure: what is the difference? You’ve surely heard of air-pressure vibrators before. But what makes them different from a 'regular' vibrator? The difference is in how they stimulate — and that feels very different. Vibrations: direct contact A classic vibrator touches the clitoris and vibrates. Those vibrations pass through the skin and stimulate the nerves directly. You can vary in speed and pattern. Many women love this direct, controllable stimulation: you know exactly what you’re getting. Air pressure: without contact An air-pressure vibrator does not touch the clitoris. Instead, you place it around it, after which it uses gentle pulsing waves of air. This stimulates the clitoris contact-free: from all sides simultaneously. Many people describe this as a fuller, deeper sensation that leads to orgasm more quickly. In short Vibrations = direct contact, vibrating, easy to dose.  Air pressure = contact-free, suction, fuller feeling. Which one is better? That is personal. Do you already have a vibration-based vibrator? Then an air-pressure vibrator is a particularly interesting addition: it really feels different. The same applies in reverse. Why LieLei? At LieLei, we consciously choose a small, high-quality assortment. No endless scrolling marathons, just products that are good. All vibrators are made of body-safe material, free from phthalates, and sustainably sourced. Discreetly packaged, delivered quickly. Still having doubts? Just send us a message (info@lielei.nl). We’d be happy to think along with you, without judgment, without a sales pitch. Pure, honest advice.

Valentine's Day for singles: how to turn it into a loving day for yourself Valentine's Day. For some, a day full of roses, a romantic dinner, gifts, or perhaps even (anonymous) declarations of love. But what if you're single on Valentine's Day? Then this day seems to be about everyone except you. Let's turn that thought around. Valentine's Day is about love – and there is nothing as important as a healthy dose of self-love. So, this one is actually about you. That's why we have some tips to spoil yourself extra on Valentine's Day. Have fun! 1. Take yourself on a date Do you love going out to dinner, but only do it when someone else comes along? Why, actually? Put on something that makes you feel fantastic and book a table for one. Still too nerve-wracking? Turn your home into a mini-restaurant: light some candles, prepare your favorite dish, and have zero obligation to talk if you don't feel like it. Tip: Just like during a dinner for two, put your phone away. 2. Dress up Dress to impress! Yourself, at least. Often, when you put on something nice, you start to feel better because of it. So go on, get out of those sweatpants and put on something you feel good in. Is that sexy lingerie? Go for it! Is that a 3-piece suit? Yes, yes, yes! Tip: Don't forget to admire yourself in the mirror. 3. Give yourself a Valentine's gift It might not be a surprise if you buy something for yourself, but it’s still fun. Treat yourself to something you’ve always wanted. Or a typical Valentine's gift like chocolate, flowers, a scented candle... or something that helps you get more in touch with your own body and pleasure. In the single toys collection from LieLei, you'll find toys especially made for pleasure with yourself. Because what is a better gift on Valentine's Day than giving yourself an orgasm? 4. Consciously take time for yourself Valentine's Day doesn't have to be big or busy. Make it a pamper day: Take a warm bath or a long shower Use a face mask Write down what you are grateful for Meditate or listen to a nice podcast Do whatever you feel like, be kind to yourself, and above all, take it easy. 5. Self-love also means sex with yourself Let's be honest: masturbation is one of the most direct forms of self-love. And yet, it's often forgotten or considered awkward. We think that's nonsense, of course. Because why should romance only be something you share with someone else? Discover what you enjoy, without haste, without expectations. With your hands, your imagination, or a toy that helps you truly relax and enjoy. Solo sex is: healthy stress-relieving empowering and entirely yours A vibrator can be a great addition to this – not as a replacement for a partner, but as an extension of your own pleasure. 6. Change the narrative: single ≠ lonely Sometimes it seems like having a partner is the norm, which makes being single seem like being incomplete or something else negative. That is absolutely not the case. Being single does not mean you are lacking anything. It means you have space. For yourself. For growth. For pleasure. So, enjoy yourself. Even if you do have a partner ;-). Be your own Valentine Whether you go out to dinner, pamper yourself, discover a toy, or just do nothing at all: Valentine's Day is what you make of it. You are worth celebrating – today and every day.

Your body undergoes tremendous changes during pregnancy and childbirth. One of the muscle groups that endures the most is the pelvic floor. Training your pelvic floor after childbirth helps your body recover, rebuild strength, and reconnect with yourself. But even if you have not given birth, training your pelvic floor is a valuable investment in your health, posture, and sexual experience. In this blog, you will read why. What is the pelvic floor? The pelvic floor is a group of muscles and connective tissue at the base of your pelvis. These muscles support your bladder, uterus, and bowels and play an important role in: Core stability Posture and movement Tension and relaxation in the body Sexual sensation and body awareness Because these muscles are located deep within your body, they are often forgotten — even though they are essential to how you feel. Pelvic floor training after childbirth: why it is so important During pregnancy, your pelvic floor muscles carry the extra weight of your growing belly. During a vaginal birth, these muscles are also stretched significantly. This does not mean they are "broken," but it does mean that they need time and attention to recover. By consciously training your pelvic floor after childbirth: You help the muscles regain strength and resilience You support your body's natural recovery You increase body awareness and confidence You work step-by-step toward a strong foundation Pelvic floor training is therefore an important part of postnatal recovery — just as essential as rest and good nutrition. What is a kegel set / pelvic floor trainer? A kegel set or pelvic floor trainer consists of egg-shaped weights that you use vaginally to activate your pelvic floor muscles. By holding the egg in place, you automatically contract the right muscles. The advantage of this is that: You train very precisely You learn to feel where your pelvic floor is Your muscles develop both strength and control The rose quartz kegel set combines this effective training with comfort and attention for the body. Why choose a rose quartz kegel set? 🌸 Gentle, natural training Rose quartz feels smooth and pleasant and is a natural product. This makes it comfortable to use, especially in the period after childbirth when your body can be extra sensitive. 🌸 Training with mindfulness and self-care Rose quartz is often associated with gentleness, love, and feminine energy. Many women experience training with a rose quartz kegel set not just as a physical activity, but also as a moment of rest and connection with themselves. 🌸 Suitable for every level Whether you are just starting to train your pelvic floor after childbirth, or have been working on body awareness for longer: a kegel set helps you become stronger in a calm, progressive way. Would you like to know more about gemstones? Read our blog about the effects of different gemstones. Training the pelvic floor if you haven't given birth: why it is still useful Pelvic floor training is not only intended for women who have been pregnant. Even if you have not given birth, training your pelvic floor can offer many benefits. Greater body awareness You learn to better feel how your body works and how you can regulate tension and relaxation. Support for your core The pelvic floor works in tandem with your abdominal and back muscles. By training these muscles, you improve stability and posture. Increased sensation and control Strong pelvic floor muscles play an important role in sexual experience and muscle control. Preventive self-care By actively training your pelvic floor, you support your body in the long term as well. How do you start with pelvic floor training? Take your time and train without rushing Focus on conscious contraction and relaxation Start with short sessions Listen to your body and don't force anything Consistency is more important than intensity. Regular, calm training yields the best results in the long run. Start training Training your pelvic floor after childbirth helps your body recover, grow stronger, and come back into balance. But even without pregnancy, pelvic floor training is a valuable form of self-care that contributes to strength, stability, and body awareness. A rose quartz kegel set offers a beautiful combination of effective training and gentle attention to your body — tailored to your pace and needs. Discover the Rose quartz kegel set from LieLei and make pelvic floor training part of your self-care routine.

New Year's resolutions often have to do with eating healthier, exercising more, or reducing stress. But what about your sex life? That deserves attention too. Therefore: Five resolutions that not only improve your sex life, but also deepen the relationship with yourself and (potentially) your partner. 1. Stop faking orgasms Let’s get right to the point: if you fake orgasms, now is the time to stop. The more often you fake an orgasm, the harder it becomes to actually have one during sex. Your partner gets the idea that what they are doing is working, and will continue to repeat this 'recipe for success.' Not because they don't care about you, but precisely because they want to make you feel good. The result? You become further removed from your true pleasure, and your partner has no idea what you actually enjoy. Honesty in bed is therefore not a turn-off, but a gift — for both of you. 2. More self-love Self-love goes beyond the occasional warm bath or a kind word to yourself. It also means: taking the time to discover your own body. By stimulating yourself with your hand or a vibrator, you learn what you like, what you need, and what your boundaries are. Moreover, orgasms are healthy: they reduce stress, improve your sleep, strengthen your immune system, and provide a healthy dose of feel-good hormones. So don't see it as something 'extra,' but as an essential part of taking good care of yourself. 3. Better communication with your partner Do you have a partner? Then communication is the key to a great sex life. And no, that's not just about dirty talk (though that’s allowed, of course). Conversations outside the bedroom are just as important: about desires, insecurities, boundaries, and needs. Being vulnerable and open strengthens the emotional bond — and you feel that connection back in bed. Sex becomes more intimate, safer, and often more exciting when you truly feel seen by each other. 4. Experiment more Experimenting doesn't have to be grand or intense, and it certainly shouldn't be something you do against your will. Be clear: if you are sure you don't want to do something, you don't have to try it. But are you curious about something new? Then you are allowed to explore that. Experimenting can also be small: a different place, a different time, a new position, or more focus on foreplay. And if it doesn't work out? That's okay too. You tried it, you learned something new — and hopefully, you were able to laugh about it together. 5. Charge your vibrator If you know, you know. Nothing is as frustrating as a vibrator that dies right before you reach your climax. See it as self-care: make sure your toys are ready when you need them. You deserve that pleasure, without interruptions (and with an orgasm). So, make your sex life a priority and put these resolutions on your list. Not because you 'have to,' but because you 'get to.' For more pleasure, more connection, and above all: more you.

How to choose your first toy Have you ever asked yourself these questions:“What is a good first vibrator?”, “I don't use a vibrator, which one should I buy?” or “Which vibrator is the best if you don't have one yet?” The answer is not the same for everyone. The “best” vibrator actually depends on your body, your preferences, and how comfortable you feel exploring your sexuality. In this blog, you can read about what to look for and which vibrators are ideal for beginners who are eager to experiment. Why it is personal Everyone experiences pleasure differently. What works for one person might feel too intense or perhaps too mild for another. That is why it is important to: 1. Discover what you like Take it easy and try different types of touch. Do you enjoy external stimulation more (such as on the clitoris)? Or are you curious about internal stimulation (for example, the G-spot)? 2. Choose a toy that suits you Some beginners feel comfortable starting with something small and simple. Others prefer a vibrator with which they can experiment with different settings and ways of use. Both options are fine — what matters is that you feel comfortable. What should you look for in your first vibrator? Intensity - Soft, accessible vibrations are often pleasant when you are still getting used to things. Shape - Round, smooth toys are the easiest for beginners to use. Features - Do you want to start simple, or do you like having multiple options to try out? Material - Always choose body-safe silicone and a toy that is easy to clean. Recommendations: the best vibrators for beginners Below you will find four good options, each with its own vibe (literally and figuratively). This way, you can choose what suits you best. Wand Vibrator Tulsi A true classic – ideal if you don't yet know what you enjoy. Suitable for external stimulation Can also massage other parts of the body (shoulders, neck, thighs) Easy to hold Not intimidating in shape Perfect if you want to start slowly and potentially build up later. Finger Vibrator Tickly The most accessible choice for beginners: Small, soft, and not intimidating Very easy to control Perfect for gentle, localized stimulation Useful for discovering what feels good A great option if you still find the whole thing a bit daunting. Flexible vibrator with air-pulse technology For those who want to experiment and discover different sensations: Combines air-pulse technology (suction sensation on the clitoris) with vibrations Can be used both internally and externally Flexible, making it usable in many positions Ideal if you are curious about multiple types of stimulation. G- and P-spot vibrator Do you want to discover what internal stimulation can do for you? Then this is a wonderful choice: Designed for the G-spot (and for people with a penis: the P-spot) Many different settings Quiet and smooth silicone material Beautiful, elegant design A good first step toward internal orgasms. Satisfyer 2.0 The Satisfyer is well-known to everyone. Despite its popularity, it can be an intense choice as a first vibrator. That is why we recommend the Chi: This air-pulse vibrator has 3 different attachments. Because of this, there is always one that suits your body well and feels good for you. The intensity is also easier to regulate with these. There are many different settings - from very soft to intense. This vibrator is made entirely of super soft silicone. The model fits well in your hand. In our opinion, a better alternative to the Satisfyer. How do you choose the right vibrator? Ask yourself these questions: Do I want to try external or internal stimulation? Do I like starting slowly, or do I want variety? Do I want a subtle model, or am I looking for more features? If you are not sure yet: choose a model that can do multiple things. That way, you will discover for yourself what appeals to you most. Go get the O There is no such thing as the best vibrator for beginners, but there is a best vibrator for YOU. Take your time to discover, try out different sensations, and choose a toy that matches your comfort level. Whether you choose a simple, low-threshold vibrator or a flexible model with more capabilities: the most important thing is that you enjoy exploring your own body. Have fun discovering!   Frequently asked questions from beginners Should I choose a specific shape? No. The right shape is the one you feel comfortable with — that can be small, large, straight, curved, or something else entirely. Is it normal that it takes some getting used to? Absolutely. Your body needs time to get to know new sensations. Can I start with internal stimulation? Yes, if that feels right to you. If you prefer to start externally first, that is just as normal. How do I know if a vibrator is too intense? If you notice your muscles tensing up, you get distracted by the intensity, or you lose your relaxation, it can help to switch to a lower setting or try a different form of stimulation. Do you become desensitized from using vibrators? No, you do not become desensitized from using sex toys. Nevertheless, some women do indeed find it harder to reach orgasm with a partner after they have gotten used to a vibrator. This is not due to desensitization, but to habituation, expectations, and a bit of biology. In this blog, we explain why it sometimes seems like you are becoming desensitized from sex toys.

Why masturbation is good for you and your relationship Many people think that masturbation is just something you do when you are single. But nothing could be further from the truth! Even when you are in a relationship, self-love – literally and figuratively – can work wonders for your sex life. In fact: regular masturbation can increase your sexual self-confidence, help you communicate better with your partner, and bring more pleasure between the sheets. 1. Get to know your own body (even better) Masturbation is the ultimate way to discover what your body likes. By experimenting with touch, rhythm, and tempo, you learn exactly what works for you – and what doesn't. That is not only valuable for yourself, but also for your partner. Because when you know what you find pleasurable, you can also communicate that more easily in bed. And let's be honest: when everyone knows what they like, everyone benefits. 2. Communication about sex becomes easier Talking about sex remains exciting for many couples, but that conversation can actually strengthen your relationship. Being open about masturbation and what you enjoy creates trust and connection. You might even discover that your fantasies or preferences align better than you thought. A good conversation about masturbation can also help to break down taboos. Because although there is often still a kind of silence surrounding it, self-pleasure is simply part of a healthy sex life – even within a relationship. Do you still find it difficult to start the conversation? The Together communication game for couples helps with that. You can make the conversations as spicy as you like. 3. Train your body for more stamina For men, masturbation can be a practical way to learn how to better control their orgasm. A well-known method is the “start-stop technique”: every time you are about to climax, you stop stimulating. In this way, you train your body to enjoy the tension for longer. The result? More control, more confidence, and longer-lasting pleasure with your partner. 4. More desire for sex (yes, really!) Several studies suggest that women who masturbate regularly have a higher sex drive. It has to do with hormones, blood circulation, and – not unimportantly – better body awareness. By masturbating, you learn to appreciate your body and become more relaxed about your own sexuality. That often translates directly into a more active and positive sex life. 5. Self-love = better sex Masturbation isn't just about pleasure, but also about self-care. Taking some time for yourself, without performance pressure or expectations, can be incredibly relaxing. You learn to enjoy touch, your body, and the moment itself. And you automatically take that feeling with you into sex with your partner. Tip to make your sex life and masturbation even more exciting Do you want to make your masturbation routine a bit more exciting? Try a vibrator, masturbator, or dildo. Sex toys can help you discover new sensations and stimulate your imagination – both solo and together. At LieLei.nl you will find a carefully selected collection of sex toys and lubricants for everyone. Discreetly packaged, with attention to quality and pleasure. Discover what suits you and give your sex life the boost it deserves! So... Masturbation is nothing to be ashamed of – it is a healthy, natural, and even useful way to improve your sex life. It helps you get to know your body better, increases your self-confidence, and makes sex with your partner more fun and intense. So: it's time to let go of the taboo and give yourself (and each other) a little more love. 💙 

Safe sex is more than just using contraceptives like condoms. Safe sex also means using good products—even when you’re having sex with yourself. Because did you know that many sex toys and lubricants are still made from materials that are better off not being used in or on your body? And that poor-quality lubricant or toy cleaner can disrupt your natural balance? In this blog, we’ll explain why safe sex toys and intimate products aren't just an unnecessary luxury, but a must. And how, at Lielei.nl, you can be sure you’re choosing safe, sustainable, and enjoyable alternatives. Why the material of your vibrator (really) matters Many people don’t think about it, but the quality of the material used in your vibrator or butt plug is important. Toys made from cheap silicone or plastic can contain plasticizers (such as phthalates), which can be harmful to your health. These substances can cause irritation, allergic reactions, or even hormonal disruptions. Always make sure your sex toys are made from body-safe materials such as medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, and borosilicate glass. These materials are: Free from phthalates and (micro)plastics Easy to clean Free from toxic substances Durable and wear-resistant This way, you not only enjoy wonderful self-care moments, but you also know for sure that you aren't taking any risks. Safe sex = safe lubricant too A safe toy deserves a safe lubricant. Many lubricants contain parabens, glycerin, or fragrance—ingredients that can disrupt your vaginal flora or cause irritation. That’s why you should always choose a lubricant that suits both your body and your toy. Because even if you don't react to the lubricant, it can sometimes damage your sex toy. What a shame! When buying a lubricant, always ensure that it is: Compatible with silicone toys. pH-neutral and vegan. Free from unnecessary junk. This keeps your intimate area healthy and your toy in top condition. Water-based lubricant is often a good choice. However, sometimes you are better off choosing a silicone-based lubricant. Want to know when to choose which? Take a look at this blog. Cleaning = respect for yourself and your toy Another important aspect of safe sex is hygiene. Cleaning your toy with water alone? Unfortunately, that is often not enough. A good toy cleaner not only removes visible residue but also kills bacteria without damaging your toy. We only offer mild, effective toy cleaners that: Do not contain alcohol (so they are gentle on silicone). Are quick and easy to use. Extend the lifespan of your toy. This keeps both you and your toy happy.   Sustainable, conscious, and body safe: that’s Lielei Whether you’re looking for a safe vibrator, a sustainable dildo, a lubricant without the fuss, or a toy cleaner that actually works—at Lielei, you shop with peace of mind. We carefully test and select all our products, so you know: this is truly safe sex. Do you want to be sure that your toys are safe for your body and good for the planet? Take a look around our webshop or read more in our other tips & tricks blogs.

In a world where more and more people are making conscious choices for themselves and the planet, it is time for the bedroom (or wherever you like...) to join this green revolution as well. At LieLei, we believe that pleasure and sustainability go hand in hand. That is why we are proud of our collaboration with The Natural Love Company – a brand that knows how to combine sexy and sustainable like no other. F*ck yourself, not the planet The Natural Love Company is a pioneer in the field of eco-friendly sex toys. Their mission is clear: to make sexual wellness accessible and responsible, without compromising on quality, aesthetics, or pleasure. All products from this brand are designed with care, with an eye for the environment, ethics, and your body. Eco-friendly materials What makes these toys so special is the conscious choice for sustainable materials. Think of: Biodegradable or recycled packaging, so that no unnecessary waste ends up in the environment. High-quality body-safe silicone, free from harmful substances such as phthalates, BPA, and latex. Sustainable production processes, where waste is kept to a minimum and energy consumption is critically monitored. Ocean plastic: we are not usually fans of plastic, but this is the exception. For some toys (such as the mini vibrator Elemi, love egg with remote control, and the air pressure rabbit vibrator), TNLC uses ocean plastic. That is recycled plastic from the ocean. The plastic is only used on the inside of the sex toys, so it does not come into contact with your body. Good for you and for the ocean. Fairly and ethically produced In addition to environmental friendliness, ethics are a key pillar for The Natural Love Company. They produce transparently, fairly, and without exploitation. No mass production in shady factories, but conscious production in collaboration with partners who take human rights and working conditions seriously. Playful, stylish, and responsible What we find extra nice about this brand? Their products are not only responsible but also simply beautiful to look at and wonderful to use. From elegant vibrators to stylish bondage ropes: every toy is designed with attention to detail, ease of use, and aesthetics. Hot nights, cool planet By choosing a toy from The Natural Love Company, you are choosing more than just pleasure. You are supporting a movement toward more conscious consumption, even in your most intimate moments. And that feels extra good, doesn't it? In addition, they donate 1% of their proceeds to an environmental charity and a tree is planted for every purchase. What are you waiting for? 👉 View the collection

Fact or fiction? You can buy them at the drugstore these days: vibrators and other sex toys. With so much accessibility, you would think every woman has one in her nightstand. Yet, that is far from the case. A commonly heard reason? The fear of becoming "desensitized" through the use of sex toys — especially when sharing the bed with a partner again. Because what if you can hardly reach an orgasm without a toy anymore? LieLei looked into it for you: Do you really become desensitized from sex toys? Spoiler alert: no. You do not become desensitized from using sex toys. Where does this myth come from, then? Some women do indeed experience that it is more difficult to reach an orgasm with a partner after they have become accustomed to their toy. They describe it as "taking longer" or even "it just doesn't work anymore without it." But this has nothing to do with "desensitization" — it has to do with habituation, expectations, and a little bit of biology. Why does a sex toy actually work so well? Let's look at the numbers:When women masturbate, about 95% reach an orgasm. If sex with a man is added, that percentage drops to about 65%. This phenomenon is also known as the orgasm gap. That difference can be partially explained: when you are in control yourself, you know exactly what you like — and you don't have to take anyone else into account. Add a powerful air-pulse or vibrating toy to that, and the orgasm can even come within a few minutes. While you might have needed half an hour in the past, you now discover that it can also be done in two minutes. Why? You know exactly what you like yourself. You can keep stimulating that one specific spot. And honestly: a vibrator doesn't get tired, doesn't lose its rhythm, and has no ego... And then suddenly: sex with a partner again Once you have experienced how fast and intense an orgasm can be with a toy, "regular" sex sometimes feels slow or less "effective." Not because you feel less — but because you have become accustomed to getting an orgasm quickly. You know what is possible, so your patience has simply run out a bit. It feels like a step backward, but it is not necessarily one. What can you do? Fortunately, this does not mean you have to choose between toys and partners. On the contrary. Here are some great tips to combine the best of both worlds: Let go of the performance pressure. Sex is not just about "finishing as quickly as possible." Focus on the pleasure, not the stopwatch. Learn to communicate clearly. Tell them what you like. Give directions. And as a partner: listen, observe, and try. Don't be offended if you get directions; after all, you want your partner to enjoy it, right? Use sex toys together. Yes, even in bed with a partner! Toys can actually deepen your sex life. Think of an air-pulse toy during oral sex, a bullet vibrator during penetration, or a duo toy where you enjoy together. Myth: you don't become desensitized from sex toys No, you do not become desensitized from sex toys. But you do become accustomed to the efficiency and direct stimulation they provide. If it then takes a bit more time or coordination with a partner, it suddenly seems much more difficult. The solution? Adjust expectations, communicate, and above all: keep having fun — with or without a toy. Want to know which toys suit you (and your partner) best? In a future blog, we will list our favorites for you. Stay tuned! 💙   Try it together?💙 View our toys for couples – for the best of both worlds.

Self-love is a concept that is often mentioned, but what does it actually mean? Simply put, self-love is valuing, accepting, and loving yourself as you are. It sounds simple, but in practice, it is often a challenge. Nevertheless, it is essential for a healthy and happy life. In this blog, we explain why self-love is healthy and how you can create more self-love. Why is self-love healthy? Self-love is a powerful foundation for both your mental and physical health. When you accept and value yourself, you are better able to set your boundaries, maintain healthy relationships, and reduce stress. Research shows that a positive self-image can lower stress hormones such as cortisol. This means that self-love can strengthen your immune system and overall health. In addition, self-love helps to reduce negative thoughts and perfectionism. It ensures that you are kinder to yourself, even when things do not go as you had hoped. As a result, you feel more emotionally stable and experience more resilience in dealing with setbacks. In short, self-love is not just a luxury, but a necessity for a happy and healthy life. How do you create more self-love? Although self-love may seem natural to some, for others it can be a process that requires time and practice. Here are a few practical tips to develop more self-love: Be kind to yourself: Pay attention to your inner dialogue. Replace critical thoughts with positive and supportive words. Ask yourself: "How would I talk to a good friend in this situation?" and try to apply that to yourself. Take good care of your body: Eat healthy, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. By taking good care of your body, you show that you find yourself valuable. Discover what you need: Take the time to reflect on your needs and desires. For example, write in a journal or meditate to gain more insight into yourself. Set boundaries: Learn to say no to situations or people that are not good for you. It is not selfish to choose for yourself – it is necessary. Embrace your imperfections: No one is perfect, and that is okay. See your mistakes and shortcomings as opportunities to grow, rather than reasons to criticize yourself. Make time for fun and relaxation: Do things that make you happy, whether that is walking, reading, dancing, or a hobby. Give yourself permission to enjoy. Masturbate regularly: does masturbating help create more self-love? Absolutely. We explain in detail below how that works. Why is masturbation good for your health and self-image? Masturbation is a form of self-care that has many benefits, both physical and mental. It is often seen as a taboo, but it is a completely natural and healthy activity. Here are some reasons why it is good for you: Stress relief During an orgasm, your body releases endorphins, the so-called "happiness hormones." These help to reduce stress and promote a feeling of relaxation. Better self-image Masturbation helps you to get to know your own body better. By discovering what you enjoy, you build a positive relationship with your body. This can contribute to a better self-image and more self-confidence, both in your sexual relationships and beyond. Physical benefits Regular masturbation can contribute to better circulation, helps reduce tension in your muscles, and can even improve your sleep quality. It is important to emphasize that masturbation is nothing to be ashamed of. It is an intimate way to give yourself love and attention, and therefore a valuable part of self-love. Do you still find it a bit daunting or are you not sure how to go about it? A yoni wand ceremony can help you with that. The journey to self-love Self-love is a journey, not a destination. It requires dedication, but the rewards are enormous. By taking better care of yourself, both emotionally and physically, you not only improve your health, but also your relationships and your overall life happiness. And remember: self-love is not selfishness, it is the foundation of everything you give to the world around you. Pleasure starts with self-love.  

Are you a 'sourpuss'? Then quickly take care of yourself. Because masturbating makes you happier. And that goes for everyone.