Good intentions for a better (and more enjoyable) sex life

New Year's resolutions often involve healthier eating, more exercise, or less stress. But what about your sex life? That deserves attention too. So, here are five New Year's resolutions that will not only improve your sex life but also deepen your relationship with yourself and (potentially) your partner.

1. No more faking orgasms

Let's get straight to the point: if you're faking orgasms, this is the time to stop. The more often you fake an orgasm, the harder it will ultimately be to actually have one during sex. Your partner will get the idea that what they're doing is working and will keep repeating this "recipe for success." Not because they don't care about you, but precisely because they want to make you feel good. The result? You'll become further removed from your true pleasure, and your partner will have no idea what you actually enjoy. Honesty in bed isn't a turn-off, but a gift—for both of you.

2. More self-love

Self-love goes beyond the occasional warm bath or a kind word to yourself. It also means taking the time to explore your own body. By stimulating yourself with your hand or a vibrator, you learn what you like, what you need, and what your limits are. Moreover, orgasms are healthy: they reduce stress, improve your sleep, strengthen your immune system, and provide a healthy dose of happiness hormones. So don't think of it as an "extra," but as an essential part of taking good care of yourself.

3. Communicate better with your partner

Do you have a partner? Then communication is key to a great sex life. And no, that's not just about dirty talk (although that's certainly allowed too). Conversations outside the bedroom are especially important: about desires, insecurities, boundaries, and needs. Being vulnerable and open strengthens the emotional bond—and you'll feel that connection in bed. Sex becomes more intimate, safer, and often more exciting when you feel truly seen by each other.

4. Experiment more

Experimenting doesn't have to be anything grand or exciting, and certainly not something you do against your will. Be clear: if you're sure you don't want to do something, you don't have to try it. But are you curious about something new? Then you're welcome to explore that. Experimenting can also be small: a different place, a different time, a new position, or more focus on foreplay. And if it doesn't work? That's okay too. You tried it, learned something new—and hopefully, you both had a good laugh about it.

5. Charge your vibrator

If you know what you know, there's nothing more frustrating than a vibrator that stops working just before you climax. Think of it as self-care: make sure your toys are ready when you need them. You deserve that pleasure, without interruptions (and with an orgasm).

So, make your sex life a priority and add these resolutions to your list. Not because you have to, but because you can. For more pleasure, more connection, and most importantly: more you.