Which sex toy suits us as a couple?

You're curious. Or you've been pondering for a while. Or someone secretly sent you a link and now you're here together (or alone). Either way: good plan. Because sex toys for couples can truly add something, not because something is missing, but simply because pleasure is more fun when you share it.

But then what? Where do you start? There's so much choice, and not everything is equally clear. We'll honestly explain what types there are, what suits whom, and why material matters more than you think. The result: the best choice for you and lots of pleasure...

What are the best sex toys for couples?

There is no universal 'best sex toy'; it depends on what you like, how familiar you are with toys, and what you want to experience together. But there are a few popular categories:

1. Vibrating cock ring

The cock ring helps the penis stay erect longer, and the vibrating part stimulates the clitoris. This vibrator is suitable for penetration.

Suitable for: sex where at least one person has a penis and one has a vulva

2. Double-sided vibrator

This vibrator can be used for penetration on both sides. So it is very suitable for two women.

Suitable for: sex where at least two people have a vulva

3. Massage vibrator

This vibrator is suitable for your whole body. So you can give or receive massages with it.

Suitable for: anyone with a body

4. Remote control vibrator

One of you wears it, the other controls it. Via a remote control, you adjust the intensity and pattern. Perfect for at home or a thrilling night out.

Suitable for: sex where at least one person has a vulva, unless you have chosen the remote control butt plug (which is suitable for everyone).

5. Butt plugs

Speaking of butt plugs: they come in all shapes and sizes. Large butt plugs, small butt plugs, glass butt plugs, vibrating butt plugs (with or without remote control); something for everyone. The use of a butt plug generally requires more preparation than the toys mentioned above. Do you want to start with anal sex? Then first read tips for starting anal sex.

Suitable for: anyone with an anus

6. Finger vibrator

Our favorite! A finger vibrator is a small vibrator that you slide onto your finger like a ring. This makes the distance between your hand and your partner's skin feel small. But with great effect, because this vibrating vibrator can bring you to great heights if you touch the right spot with it.

Suitable for: anyone with sensitive spots on their body. The finger vibrator is suitable not only for stimulating the clitoris, but also the anus and the perineum (which is the skin between the scrotum and anus).

7. Double-sided air-pressure vibrator

Most people are familiar with air-pressure technology from the Satisfyer. The double-sided air-pressure vibrator also has this, but it also has a vibrating side. And you can use both sides simultaneously.

Suitable for: sex where at least one person has a vulva

 

Toys to share

Most sex toys are suitable for couples to use together. It just depends on how creative you are. However, some sex toys are simply more convenient to use when there are two (or more) of you. View all types of couple vibrators.

Do you want to try something different in bed than classic sex toys? Then consider:

Bondage & Shibari

Bondage or shibari (Japanese rope bondage) may sound intense, but it can be very sensual and calm. Or make it kinky and exciting. Whatever you feel comfortable with. We have a complete Shibari & bondage collection made from sustainable hemp, jute, and/or cotton.

Do you want to start with Shibari? Here you will find the beginner's guide with bondage tips.

Massage oils & gels

Do you find rope or a device a bit too exciting? Sometimes the fun begins before sex. Massage oil is accessible, relaxing, and a lovely way to start together. Or try a stimulating gel. All our massage oils and gels are made from natural ingredients.

How do we start? Tips for couples new to sex toys

Start by talking. Sounds boring, but it's not. Scrolling through a webshop together (hello!), indicating what you find attractive and what you absolutely don't, already provides a lot of direction.

Our tips for a good start:

• Start with something low-threshold: massage oil, a small vibrator, or a simple bondage set.
• Choose a toy that adds something for both of you, not just for one person.
• Read the description: a good toy has clear explanations about use and material.
• Set expectations to zero. It's about experimenting, not performing.

 

Frequently asked questions about sex toys for couples

Can I use a vibrator during sex?

Yes, absolutely! Using a vibrator can add an extra dimension to your sex life. Make sure your partner is also keen on it. Or start with the agreement that you'll just try it, and if one of you no longer enjoys it, you'll try something else or stop. Although we consider the chance of it being 'stopping' small...

Is lubricant necessary with sex toys?

Almost always recommended, yes. Always use natural lubricant with silicone toys. Other materials can damage the toy. Our natural lubricants are specially selected for safety; for yourself and your toys.

How do I clean a sex toy?

Use a special toy cleaner. That way, you can be sure your toys are hygienically cleaned with a cleanser that is also skin-friendly and (especially for anyone with a vulva) does not disrupt your pH balance.

What if my partner is hesitant?

No pressure. Let the idea sink in. Sometimes it helps to look together instead of buying immediately. Or start with something neutral like massage oil, no 'sex toy' label, but very nice together.

Are your products discreetly packaged?

Always. No logos on the box, neutral sender. What you buy stays between you.

Which material is safe? And why does it matter?

This is perhaps the most underestimated aspect of buying sex toys. Not every material is equally safe: some cheap toys contain phthalates or other toxic substances that can irritate your body.

At LieLei, we only sell toys made from:

• 100% medical-grade silicone (hygienic, skin-friendly, easy to clean)
• Glass (durable, temperature-sensitive, safe)
• Hemp and jute (for bondage / shibari)
• Vegan leather (think handcuffs, whips, and other BDSM items)

No plastic, no phthalates, no toxic substances. That sounds logical, but it's not always the case with other webshops.

Ready to begin?

Sex toys for couples don't have to be complicated. Find something that appeals to both of you, pay attention to the material, and don't forget that it's meant to be fun.

View our full collection of sex toys for couples: safe, sustainable, and discreetly delivered.