Role playing

Role-playing can spice up your relationship. But getting started can be nerve-wracking. How do you bring it up with your partner? What if you don't like it? How do you get started? We've compiled some tips for you.

What is role playing anyway?

Role-playing is the practice of assuming another role or character in an intimate setting. Think of the classic "strangers in a bar," but also playful scenarios such as:

• The strict (or perhaps clumsy) teacher
• The mysterious stranger on a journey
• Two people who meet "by chance"

It's not about acting, but about imagination, playfulness and getting away from the everyday .

Why can role playing be good for your relationship?

Are you in a (long-term) relationship? Sometimes it's good to consciously step outside your usual dynamic and explore a different kind of interaction, by adopting a different setting, attitude, or identity. It can break the routine, revitalize or enrich your sex life, and:

• Helping to break fixed patterns
• Stimulate curiosity and creativity
• Opening the conversation about desires and boundaries
• Creating more playfulness and connection

How do you get started with role playing?

Good news: you don't have to memorize a script. Start small:

• Choose a simple scenario: who, what, and where is sufficient.
• Keep it close to yourself.
• Set boundaries and, to be on the safe side, choose a safe word.
• Agree that laughter is always allowed.
• Think of it as an experiment, not an achievement

You can even start with just a different setting or tone, without going completely “into character.”

How do you ask your partner this?

This is often the most exciting part. Keep it light and personal. A few examples:

• “ I came across something about role playing and I was curious what you think about it.”
• I find that I enjoy exploring new things together. What are your thoughts on this?

Important: no is also okay . Enthusiasm only works when it's mutual.

Play more

Role-playing isn't a must-have or a cure-all. It's one of the many ways partners can experiment with closeness, fantasy, and communication. What it primarily requires is mutual respect, curiosity, and safety. Not so keen on role-playing, but still want to experiment with your partner?

• Connect with good conversations .
• Experiment with surrender and domination with Shibari; the Japanese art of bondage .
• Try a new toy together .