What is chastity play and why is it trending?

In 2025, a striking shift is visible in how people experience intimacy. One of the most striking trends is chastity play . This phenomenon revolves around sexual abstinence and control, often performed with special chastity belts or cages that restrict access to the genitals. But why are more and more people choosing this?

Control, surrender and trust

Chastity play isn't just about abstinence, but primarily about the play of power and surrender. The "wearer" carries a toy, often locked with a key, controlled by a partner (the so-called keyholder). This requires enormous mutual trust and fosters a deep, emotional connection.

Locktober and community

Every year in October, Locktober takes place, a month in which people worldwide voluntarily engage in chastity. Online communities share experiences, challenges, and tips. This trend is growing exponentially and demonstrates how mainstream this once-niche game is becoming.

Experimenting with giving control to someone else?

Want to give control to someone else in a different way, or take control yourself? Then learn about Shibari . Shibari is a Japanese bondage technique that's currently gaining popularity. This isn't surprising, as the bondage technique combines art, connection, and sensual tension. Or the abstinence of both. It all depends on how you approach it. Convinced already? With our Shibari and bondage collection, you can get started right away.

And then this...

Safety is essential for chastity play, shibari, and bondage. Are you going to use products, toys, or ropes? Always choose body-safe materials and comfortable designs. Not sure where to find them? You're already safe and secure, because everything you choose at Lielei.nl is safe and reliable. Let the fun begin!